Have you gone blunt?
"That's Naomi. She's a bit bossy." (Mum’s friend who was babysitting us to her friend who’d popped in for coffee)
"Oh, really? She doesn't seem..." (Friend of mum’s friend)
"Okay, guys. Line up behind me!" (Me to my siblings and mum's friend's children)
After the hysterical laughter, the conversation above was fed back to my mum and so my mum told me and I've never, ever forgotten it! Maybe it's an eldest child thing or the fact that 'achiever' is 100% one of my strength finder top 5, but there's been something in me since I was child. Something in me which has known I was created to be a leader.
It's been rarer than I'd like to admit, how many times I've actually owned that though.
Fears of being "too much", "too loud" and "not like the other girls" meant I spent far too long trying to fit in before realising I'd been created to do things differently.
And so have you.
That thing which sometimes annoys you and has you wondering why you CAN'T just do what everyone else does and be okay with that, why you can't just fit into the mould society wants to create for you. I mean, don't get me wrong, you've tried. We've all TRIED, right?
But the truth of the matter is that you're a square peg trying to fit into in a round hole and the more you try and force yourself into something which doesn't fit you, the more you're going to blunt your edges.
We can't have blunt edges.
Not in today's world. Today's world requires something of you because you've been created by God with something unique and so whether it's sounded like 'bossy' or 'too much' or whatever that was for you in the past, it's the thing which you're actually meant to stop ignoring even if no one else is doing it.
I had a message yesterday from one of the ladies in my Mobilisation Mastermind which was just such a sweet and kind reminder of the fact that me stepping up and stepping into who I've been created to be has given her the courage and confidence to step into who SHE has been created to be with HER unique gifts, skills and talents and she'll go on to do the same for others, of course because that's what she was born for.
And that is the whole thing, ladies. Honestly, it is.
If I'd have continued to decide that what God's given me is 'too much' and that I was better off suppressing it and trying to do some other thing which just seemed more normal, then I wouldn't have had that impact.
Because to be totally honest with you, we can't flourish if we're not rooted.
And we won't be rooted, settled, grounded, secure unless we know that we know that THIS is the thing and then from that place of total alignment, we BLOOM.
I'm guessing that as I type this, you know what the the thing is for you. If not here's some ways to unearth it a little...
1. What are some of the things which have been said about you, even since you were a child? (And even if they might have appeared negative.)
2. What do you wish the whole world knew?
3. What would the people closest to you say about you?
4. What's something you would do even if you weren't being paid for it?
5. What's something which comes so naturally to you that almost forget it's not the norm for everyone else?
Since committing my life to Christ over 10 years ago now, I've always loved telling people that they were made for more. That they're fearfully and wonderfully made and that God has given them so, so much. I told people that for 6 years online (and for many years offline before that!) before I was paid a penny for it! I've always loved writing and have a handbag full of journals to prove it - I still journal. And I blog like this. It's a way of me communicating what I feel God is saying to His children. It's an honour and a privilege, one which I'm committed to using for His glory as I remind others to share THEIR message even when they're shaking.
And, okay, let's face it... I've always been a bit bossy. But that's okay. I'm owning it because the girl who was a bit of a bossy 10-year-old back then is a leader now - a leader who committed to you stopping the 'blunt edge' square peg/round hole thing and instead, stepping sharply into POWER and PURPOSE - the one you were made for.
If you know you've got something on the inside of you to share/to say/to be/to do but the thought of SELLING that thing or ever generating income around it fills you with horror, you're not alone (hello 5.5 years as a hobby status blogger!) but I DO have something you're going to love and it's happening TODAY!
'The Skills vs The Sale' is going to teach you:
- Why having an amazing skill/gift isn't enough to become an entrepreneur and what you need to be doing next to fully step into CEO mode.
- How to 'ask for the sale' in a way which doesn't leave you feeling sleazy so that you're generating income as well as having impact.
- How to monetise your message/product/service (and if even that sentence makes you feel yuck, that's okay. We can talk about that too.)
This bonus training is happening TODAY with the ladies who have signed up for the STOP STALLING Boot Camp (which is happening LIVE this Saturday!) - I'll be going live with 'The Skills vs The Sale' TODAY in the Boot Camp private Facebook group. 4pm BST| 11am EST | 8am PST.
Ready to join us? Click the link below to sign up and get instant access to the private Facebook group so that you can dive into today's bonus training in order to get you ready for Saturday's Boot Camp!