Bossy? Or just great leadership skills...
"That's Naomi. She's a bit bossy." (Mum’s friend who was babysitting us to her friend who’d popped in for coffee)
"Oh, really? She doesn't seem..." (Friend of mum’s friend)
"Okay, guys. Line up behind me!" (Me to my siblings and mum's friend's children)
After the hysterical laughter, the conversation above was fed back to my mum and so my mum told me and I've never, ever forgotten it! Maybe it's an eldest child thing or the fact that 'achiever' is 100% one of my strength finder top 5, but there's been something in me since I was child. Something in me which has known I was created to be a leader.
It's been rarer than I'd like to admit, how many times I've actually owned that though.
Fears of being "too much", "too loud" and "not like the other girls" meant I spent far too long trying to fit in before realising I'd been created to do things differently.
And so have you.
That thing which sometimes annoys you and has you wondering why you CAN'T just do what everyone else does and be okay with that, why you can't just fit into the mould society wants to create for you. I mean, don't get me wrong, you've tried. We've all TRIED, right?
But the truth of the matter is that you're a square peg trying to fit into in a round hole and the more you try and force yourself into something which doesn't fit you, the more you're going to blunt your edges.
We can't have blunt edges.
Not in today's world. Today's world requires something of you because you've been created by God with something unique and so whether it's sounded like 'bossy' or 'too much' or whatever that was for you in the past, it's the thing which you're actually meant to stop ignoring even if no one else is doing it.
I frequently get messages from clients and those who follow me on social media which serve as sweet and kind reminders of the fact that me stepping up and stepping into who I've been created to be gives others the courage and confidence to step into who THEY have been created to be with THEIR unique gifts, skills and talents and they'll go on to do the same for others, of course because that's what they were born for.
And that is the whole thing, ladies. Honestly, it is.
If I'd have continued to decide that what God's given me is 'too much' and that I was better off suppressing it and trying to do some other thing which just seemed more normal, then I wouldn't have had that impact.
Because to be totally honest with you, we can't flourish if we're not rooted.
And we won't be rooted, settled, grounded, secure unless we know that we know that THIS is the thing and then from that place of total alignment, we BLOOM.
I'm guessing that as I type this, you know what the the thing is for you. If not here's some ways to unearth it a little...
1. What are some of the things which have been said about you, even since you were a child? (And even if they might have appeared negative.)
2. What do you wish the whole world knew?
3. What would the people closest to you say about you?
4. What's something you would do even if you weren't being paid for it?
5. What's something which comes so naturally to you that almost forget it's not the norm for everyone else?
Since committing my life to Christ over 11 years ago now, I've always loved telling people that they were made for more. That they're fearfully and wonderfully made and that God has given them so, so much. I told people that for 6 years online (and for many years offline before that!) before I was paid a penny for it! I've always loved writing and have a handbag full of journals to prove it - I still journal. And I blog like this. It's a way of me communicating what I feel God is saying to His children. It's an honour and a privilege, one which I'm committed to using for His glory as I remind others to share THEIR message even when they're shaking.
And, okay, let's face it... I've always been a bit bossy. But that's okay. I'm owning it because the girl who was a bit of a bossy 10-year-old back then is a leader now - a leader who committed to you stopping the 'blunt edge' square peg/round hole thing and instead, stepping sharply into POWER and PURPOSE - the one you were made for.
And speaking of leadership, something VERY exciting has been happening over the summer which I’m so delighted that I now get to share with you!...
When our church staff team were introduced to this successful, Christian businessman who was going to be taking us through a journey in transforming our team communication, I had no idea what to expect. But always being one for personal development, I dived right in.
What I didn't expect is that my personal leadership in my life and business would be completely transformed in the process.
Imagine my joy when I later had an opportunity to get certified in teaching this work to others!
The 5 Voices system is about communicating effectively with everyone you lead.
Think Myers Briggs and Ennegram x100, 5 Voices is about you knowing yourself to lead yourself and then in turn, is about you leading your team, your customers and your clients to the best of your ability, harnessing the power of YOUR unique voice.
This work has been taken on by global companies like Chick-fil-a, Juice Plus+, Royal Bank of Scotland and many, many more.
Starting in December, I'm taking 10 high-level business owners through this work (whilst adding my signature Biblical element, of course!) in my 6-month mastermind LIBERATED. You're one of the first to know about it! If you’re a leader ready to take what you know to the next level, Liberated is going to provide you with just that. If you're ready to be one of the first to know as soon as doors open, just click the button below and get on the waitlist.
The world is waiting for your work.
HEY! I’m Naomi, Business Coach for High-Level Female Entrepreneurs & Founder of Living Word League.
I coach, write, teach and run programs which infuse practical strategies with Biblical principles (which I personally think is the best rule of thumb for success.) I moved from a 7-year High School teaching career, to building and scaling my business after starting out as a hobby-status blogger in 2011. Within months, I was able to go totally full time and haven't looked back. My success, as someone who previously would have never seen myself as an entrepreneur means that I'm now beyond passionate about business being an expression of Kingdom-building here on earth. Hobby status and inconsistent feast to famine months aren't cutting it for you anymore right? You're meant for a business which has faith as your foundation AND soars with success. That's where I come in.
Click HERE to learn more about working with me.